guys....?
guys, if you fall for a girl and find out later that she had a promiscuous past, will you still take her seriously?
guys, i mean if the girl you fall for really COMES CLEAN about that past, tells you that she's been around a while, will you still have the same feelings for her?
guys, would a girl still deserve your utmost respect even if she's been with quite a number of men in bed?
guys, will you still appreciate a girl for what she's really worth after she has sex a la carte with you?
guys, honestly?
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PAHABOL: would you still take her seriously if she herself COMES CLEAN about the past in question???
Well, it's not much of a choice really. I mean, I've already fallen in love with her. Besides, I'm an extremely open-minded person and things like that don't really bother me and she's changed, right? What would bother me more is the fact that there's still something that I don't know about her. I for one think that you can't really fall in love with someone that you know so little.
I guess you'd have to be a very straight and rather rigid kind of guy to be turned off by something like this. You know, someone who staunchly supports those kinds of values. But then again, he'd have a bit of a dilemma realizing that people who are like that aren't so bad at all.
Different strokes for different folks.
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personally, i dont care about the past... everyone has skeletons in their closets anyway.
Whats important is that you know who you are. After that, does what you were really count?
few guys can actually do that. because deep down, they're still as judgemental as women. hehe
Am not a man pero I just gotta comment on this one:
I think men should still look at a woman's past to know the real person in her...BUT should not "discriminate" her if she was honest enough with him about her past. Besides, when all those happened he wasn't existing in his life yet...that's all!
people change because of their circumstances. we learn from good and bad circumstances/experiences that come in our lives, and that what makes us the person we are now.
we do not go into a relationship to keep tabs of the mistakes that we've made, but rather enjoy each exciting moment now. opinion lang po.
Yes...Yes...Yes...Yes...and Yes
i think that if you really love the person... then you can get through anything. but i guess it depends on just HOW much you love the person.
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men who don't accept a woman's past are fickle minded twits, and is undeserving of attention. everybody has had mistakes or bad decisions once in a while, or even conscious decisions that most people ordinarily don't agree with. loving someone would have to mean compromising...on a bigger scale ACCEPTING everything that the person is. kung di kaya, the relationship is bound for doom...
this is so unfair. why do guys get to decide what's OK and what's not OK? REAL guys aren't afraid of fun and fearless females. i just hate this double standard sh*t. grrrr.
thanks everyone for the comments! i'm glad to see that people these days are generally open-minded about such issues :)
buti naman... :)
if the girl has completely changed for the better and she'd been honest about her past, i can accept that. and yes, when you have fallen really in love with someone, who cares about the past. maybe it will hurt me to learn about those things but if i love her, the most logical thing to do is help her learn from the past and never go back where she's been.
I think guys or even women who still put too much ado on wearing the chastity belt until the honeymoon must be living under a rock for a billion years! Crustaceans. Non-human.
I think that a relationship based on a person's virginity is not love at all, just a proper combination of selfishness and lust.
yeah! zakly! :)
not a guy so i'll just shut up. :D
but hey tessa, thanks for asking questions i've been wanting to ask but have not. ^_^
Once fallen in love with a girl, her past wouldn't matter anymore. That's because to fall in love means to believe in sommeone, to accept someone for who she was, is and will be and be willing to take all the risks that must come in your life with that someone. It's her life then and it was her choice. Who am I to take control of her life? It's as long as she doesn't get to sleep with someone else when we are in a relationship.
Once fallen in love with a girl, her past wouldn't matter anymore. That's because to fall in love means to believe in sommeone, to accept someone for who she was, is and will be and be willing to take all the risks that must come in your life with that someone. It's her life then and it was her choice. Who am I to take control of her life? It's as long as she doesn't get to sleep with someone else when we are in a relationship. (RIPpler)
Hindi naman siguro guys lang ang puwedeng mag-comment no?
Anyway, I honestly believe nobody would stay in promiscuous relationships and want it to stay that way forever. I mean, I'm pretty sure there would come a point in this girl's life when she would say enough is enough and start looking or wanting a more meaningful, stable and sensible relationship. And I think that would have to matter more than anything else... what she now wants in a relationship, not whatever she's had before.
i dont think lahat ng lalake ganon. ang bf ko ngayon hindi naman daddy ng baby ko pero parang anak na nya kung ituring. and eventhough, he's in the Phils, at ako asa US, alam kong anjan pa rin siya para sa akin. yun nga lng mahirap maghanap ng lalakeng ganon. parang needle sa haystack.
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thank you everyone! :)
A little late, but I hope not too late to catch anyone's attention. ;-)
Thought I was open-minded about this, 'til I heard about this guy who married a lady who WAS promiscuous, then gave her all the leeway she needed (You CAN still have all the men you want, as long as you don't bring anyone home!), and she STILL brought someone home!
Oh, well, I guess it's the lady's ability to be faithful to anyone she currently has a "LOVING" relationship with that's important and NOT her past.
of course, the _best_ way is that everyone waits until the rings are awapped... no skeletons, no nasty surprises, no unnecessary baggage...
But here in the real world, people have all sorts of issues...
I was fortunate. But I think even if my wife "had a past", I would love her just as much... after she spoke the "... and forsaking all others..." line and meaning it, her past and mine no longer matter... it's the future that matters...
Hope that helps?
one word: YES.
yeah.. me too.. glad that you asked those questions kasi not all girls have the courage to ask them.. you know, for fear of what other people might say.
sad nga lang paminsan-minsan kasi there are some people who take that thing against you. pero people nowadays are more open minded na rin diba?
well for those who aren't, bahala sila. siguro naman, someone out there is open minded and loving enough to accept someone regardless of their past diba?
that thing should not be taken against you, i believe so..kung talagang mahal mo..
relationship is like buying a used car; you take it without any guarantee and regardless of where it comes from. i am a used car as much as she is.
hmmm...
does it matter?
I don't want to be a hypocrite and say it doesn't hurt to find out about your significant other's past relationships.
But I don't get into relationships because of someone else's past. I decide to be with that person at that place and time because I love her the way she is. And a large part of who she is was shaped by the people and events in her life.
If I am to love the person for real, I must love everything about her. Even the ugly parts.
Does that make any sense to you? -the cash advance guy
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